“You LET him do that?!?!”
It is not the first time, nor the last time, that I will hear these words from a friend, family member or student. People often wonder how I could ever let my husband smoke, eat meat, not do yoga on a regular, etc… The truth is, no matter how strong you all think I am, I cannot control his behavior or anyone else’s. I can only control my own. This can often be heartbreaking and frustrating, but it is the truth.
Years ago, I thought I could change his behavior as well as others, but after lots of tears and letdowns I realized I cannot force anyone to join my path. Everyone finds their own healthy path when they are ready. I can only live by example and offer assistance when asked. Yoga has taught me to honor others for exactly where they are on their path because, where you are today, is where you need to be.
I would be lying if I said I don’t want you all to not smoke, eat clean, exercise more, stress less, but I cannot make this happen for you, only you can. So, I encourage you to join me on this path of health and happiness, but I will never be angry if you don’t. I know you will join me when you are ready. And, if you are on this path with me, live more by example and live less with judgment.
I always look forward to the moments our paths cross and hope that it will always be at a healthy and happy intersection.